Top 10 People I hate

People I hate...

1. People who stand to close to me in line.  If I can feel your breath on my neck you are to close ! This creeps me out so bad, like are they trying to see my information so they can kid nap me later ?

2 . People who say " your welcome" when I didn't say thank you.  Maybe there is a reason I didn't say Thank you maybe because I am not thankful and you suck !

3. Women who complain or brag about their post baby bodies, before their postpartum check up.  You should be falling in love with every part of your baby not worrying what you look like in the mirror!

4. People who think their stuff is better just because its Thiers .  like how their stock car will out run any other car. I guess them owning it gave the car more horse power or something. 

5. Girls who think they can't do something solely because they are a girl !  You can't do it because you were never taught or you just didn't want to learn. Gender is just a box we check on applications it doesn't choose what we are capable of.

6. These  people who go on crash diets and post about ever single pound they lose but never say a word when they gain it back... if I had to read about your kale shake and 10 mile walk to lose 3 pounds I want to hear about your glass of Pepsi , your big Mac sandwich and how you gained 5 pounds ..

7. Anyone who thinks their way is the only way!... your way is best for you but that doesn't mean its best for everyone! 

8. People who believe in stereotypes and label other people... labels are for soup cans not for people! My hair, clothing or type of music I listen to doesn't define who I am ...

9. People who just show up at my house unexpected.  I have 3 kids, I need at least a 3 hour warning  so I can scrap the gum off my couch and clean the shit off the back of the toilet..(still have no clue how that happens...)

10.  People with no sense of humor.  If you don't find it funny keep your trap shut I don't need to know that you don't think its funny. Just let me laugh , hell laugh along and we can laugh at each other !

...........and this people is why I have no friends....

Confessions of parents

 I recently asked a  group of parents a few questions  to get some input for  a blog I wanted to write, but what happen was far better.

The answers people gave me were very honest and they opened a part of themselves for me to see that I didn't expect. The fear of being judged out weighed the benefits of helping a friend. (ME!)     I was moved by the emotion I read and heard in some of the answers . Each person I asked is different  Some only have 1 child and some are raising a neighborhood of kids. Some are stay at home parents and some work 12 hour shifts.  Some have small children and some have grand children.  Some are financially stable and some struggle every day .. The one thing each one of them had in common is They all love the children in their lives. 

• 1. Do you worry if you are being a good parent? 

"
Every single day of my life, but my mother reassures me that means I am a good parent. I second guess everything as for some reason, my brood did not come with instructions. It does get easier as they get older, even though it also gets more difficult."

"No I do not worry about being a good parent, I feel with everything I have been though in life, I make sure to provide and do for my kids."

" all of the time what parent doesn't? ? The Caseworker for my Foster children's tells me I'm doing a great job." 

• 2. Was you scared of becoming a parent, if so why?

"  Heck yes! But it is so worth it"

 "No I was never scared of becoming a parent until my 2nd child was born 16yrs after my first! Things have changed a LOT in that time."

"  I was not scared of becoming a parent. I was READY. I was ready to teach, learn, and experience life in a whole new way with my child. Every day is a blessing. The one thing I am scared of being a parent is because of death. I am scared of her leaving this earth. I am scared of me leaving this earth. I want to see her grow up. I want to see her go to school, college, get married, have children of her own. I want to be a grandmother. I want forever with her."

" I drank an 18 pack of beer the night my wife took her pregnancy test. We had been trying to get pregnant for 5 months and had stopped trying and decided to be traditional and get married first. She was late and her boobs hurt. I was terrified we would be pregnant and terrified we wouldn't be. The next ten months I really focused in on how "my story" was no longer about "me." That is an incredibly disheartening and terrifying prospect...until you meet your child and realize everything has changed in the most wonderful way."

•   3. What is 1 thing that you said you would never do as a parent but ended up doing any how?

" tell them that I brought them into this world & I will take them out. Or lick my finger to clean their face"
 "I said I would never be one of those parents who would cuss at or yell at my child. I am not proud of it but I am guilty. Damn she can really get me pissed off!"

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letting her cry it out, she expects to be the center of my attention all the time and I still have to clean house and cook and work"

" Screaming and hollering at the kids all the time and cussing them"

•  4. Has anyone ever criticized you for your parenting choices? If so what choice was it? 

" yes letting her ride horses with me"

" My ex-wife sometimes was not happy with the way I chose to punish our child. Its only because she never had discipline as a child and did not agree with it."

" Yes by my mom. For the non stop screaming etc"

" yes I was judged by a mentally ill narcissist who was looking for something ANYTHING to criticize me because she knows being a parent is the most important element to my life and to my self. She said I yell at my kids too much. I yell, it is true, but it is NOT in any way out of the ordinary or inappropriate or unreasonable."

 " yes the drunk couple up the street that don't have any kids. They tell me I need to put my kids on a harness because I let them run wild. I let them play outside & ride their bikes up & down the street. I let them play in the street because our neighborhood is so quite the only peeps that come down our stretch is the people that live on my block. I let them draw with chalk in the street.. I am outside with them when they are out there.I don't let them disrespect others or their property so F- them assholes"

•   5. Have you ever had a "bad parent" moment? If so what was it?

" yes I have had a few of them. I went off on my drunk neighbors in front on my kids yelling & really bad words. I have called my daughter a selfish little bitch. I have whipped their ass when I don't believe in spanking. But I had just had enough. The list goes on & on because I'm not a perfect parent"

" yes I feel horrible when I let her cry it out and can't devotee 100% of my attention to her"

" I have gotten upset before and "blew up" before using my head. It was hard, but my child and I learned from the situation"

" She fell off the bed when she was three months. I found her struggling to stay above water when I forgot to turn the bathtub water off and turned away for a sec when she was around 2. That was a horrible what if moment. I have hurt her feelings when I am sarcastic with her on her duh moments. Sometimes I want to treat her like an older child and she isn't."

" I dropped the f bomb. Then dropped it again realizing I dropped it. I was not proud. "

"Yes. My  daughter drew her fist back at me when she was 5 and my first reaction was to defend myself and I open handily smack her across the face."

•  6. Have you ever judged someone else's parenting choices? ...

" yes who hasn't?'

" yes I have. We have been in a restaurant while the parents are pigging out & make their kids share a meal. Then when the kid ask for more they tell them no. My kids eat before I do. If they are still hungry I give them food off my plate. When a parent beat their kids in the middle of a store I want to beat that parent. There is a time & place for everything"

" Yes I have judged others parenting, or non-parenting skills! In my job I get to see and hear all kinds of good and bad situations. I don't always know what going on, just what people tell me. But some stories I have been told are just absolute crazy!!!"

" I try not to judge. I see and read stuff that I don't agree with. I don't know the circumstances behind everything that goes on in someone else's life. I may comment or have a opinion but I try not to be hateful or hurtful. I know I was judgy when I was younger and definitely before I was a parent myself."

" I am the most judgmental person ever, and don't want to be. But since I still am, grab the popcorn and a beer and lets judge everyone for an hour or two. HA! No, in all seriousness, yes I'm guilty of it. Parents who don't prioritize their children make my skin crawl, and parents who are overly permissive make my skin crawl. And people who choose spouses over their children, or who LEAVE THEIR CHILDREN IN HOT CARS make my blood boil. Also people who dress their children in ridiculous garb. Its like "Hello? That is a child not a fecking doll!" Where's the popcorn?"



I didn't ask if they choose to vaccinate  or if their children were bottled or breast fed cause honestly none of that matters when it comes to being a parent.  Choices like using a Harness on a 2 year old or getting your daughters ears pierced will one day not matter at all. Its the things we teach our children and the example we set for them that will shape the person they will turn out to be.     


    THANK YOU TO EACH OF THE 15 PARENTS FOR THEIR HONESTY!
         I will tolerate no Negativity towards any questions or answers !!!

Confessions of a Bad mom

  At the very young age of 17  4 tests  all showed the same thing , I was going to be a mother. ..   I had no plans on being a mom, honestly the thought of being a mother scared the shit out of me.  Even as a very young kid I swore I never wanted any babies, so when I played dolls with my sister I was always just the baby sitter. One Christmas My parents bought me  this "feel so real" baby doll that looked just like a new born baby.  Back then most baby dolls didn't look real, they would be the size of a 6 month old, but with the hair of a 10 year old. This baby was bald and wrinkly, it weighed exactly 5 pounds and had bones inside its soft gel filled skin. I named the baby Nicole then I beat the baby for crying to much and hung it upside down to watch the gel move to its head giving it a fat face.  This was my favorite baby solely because my sister wanted it, and I wouldn't let her have it.  The only part about having that baby doll that I liked was having a excuse to  buy real baby stuff from the consignment shop next door.  I spent every penny I got buying a baby stroller and car seat then hid the Doll under my bed and strapped my cat into the stroller and went walking.
    When My sister and I got too old to play with Baby dolls she started baby sitting. She would baby sit every kid in the neighborhood. People would talk about how she was made to be a mother. she had that caring, nurturing side to her that I lacked. While my sister was day dreaming about a family of her own and playing with the neighbor kids I was off in the woods with my new Daisy Cobra BB gun shooting black birds, or sneaking into a pond to try and catch a catfish.  I wanted to be one of the guys not stuck at home with some baby.

I was so sacred my whole pregnancy That I had night mares about forgetting to feed him, or leaving  him some where.  I met other pregnant women at the doctors office who were begging to be induced so excited they couldn't wait to meet their new baby. I on the other hand was begging for 1 more month. 10 months just wasn't enough time to prepare to be a mother. Most women had their whole lives to think about what kind of mom they wanted to be I only had 10 months and most of that was spent helping my at the time boyfriend ( who later became my husband)   rebuild a motor in his truck. I would sit there and look at all the new baby stuff I had, and cry.  How does the car seat go again?   Why didn't they give me one of those planned parenting fake babies to practice with? I was so scared and I just knew I was going to be a horrible mother.

   At 41 weeks and 6 days into my pregnancy nature kicked in and I couldn't stop it.  I cried looking into my own mothers eyes saying " I just want to keep him inside me where I know he is safe"  I begged the nurse to just let me go home I promised to come back when I was ready.  I was a emotional wreck so much so that I was given a Arbys cheddar melt and a sleeping pill.  18 hours later I became a mother ( oh yeah that boyfriend became a daddy but he is not part of this story ). As soon as I seen my son for the first time I was no longer scared to be a mom.

 He was 3 days old at his first doctors appointment and  the nurse called me up to the window. Every parent in there was staring at me but I had no idea why until the nurse pointed out that I had forgot my baby! I left him sitting in his car seat sitting on a bench, oh god it was all true I am going to be a Bad mom!!!

      14 years and 2 kids later, I was called a bad mom for the first time.   Here I was so proud of myself 14 years of being a mother and social services didn't know me by name.  14 years and everybody was still in one piece including myself.   I had never been called a bad mom before .  It wasn't so much the words of the 10 + lynch mob moms on facebook as much as it was the reason they called me a bad mom.   They didn't know that I left my newborn baby on a bench, or that I clipped his skin the first time I cut his finger nails.  They didn't know that I rode around one day without my middle sons car seat  buckled into the car .  These judgmental moms didn't know that I let my kids ride a bike without a  helmet.  They didn't know that I once knocked my daughters front tooth out on the slip in slide or that I let my kids listen to Waylon Jennings and Kid rock.
  These women who felt the need to cut me down had no clue what mistakes I had made as a mother All they knew was I was different and that made me a bad mom.  They didn't care about all the things I had done right with my kids they only cared about the one thing they felt I done wrong.   The moment I was labeled as  a Bad Mom nothing else I said mattered and these lynch mob moms waited for me to say something so they could personally attack me again and again.   Never tell people you clean your kids room! according to those women I am raising lazy children who will grow up to live off the government or end up in prison..
 
    I choose to start the page Confessions of a Bad Mom not only to say F-you to the bitchy picture perfect moms with a closet full of their own parenting mistakes but also to give other parents a place to laugh at my mistakes with me and know they will not be judged for their own.  I dont care what mistakes you have made as a parent as long as you don't have a kid tied up some where ( no longer than a hour if they are a teenager)  Its not my place to judge someones parenting, I think we do that enough to ourselves in the mirror every day .........

A Trashy Situation

       Every wonder what impact you will have on the world around you?  

My family of 5 produces on average 4, 30 gallon  bags of trash a week . That doesn't seem that bad , that is like  a bag every other day.   I don't have trash service ,since there is a county dumpster site 2 blocks over .  Once a week I load up our trash and go throw it into the dumpster, and never think about it again.  I have never added up how many bags that is in a year or in a life time. I have never thought about where that dumpster goes or where my weekly trash ends up.

My family has never recycled except for metal. I have seen the little symbols all over everything but have given very little thought about it ,except  Once a week  when I take our trash to the dumpster .  When  I see these people with their bags of plastic bottles and boxes of cardboard trowing it into special bins I think I should recylcle.  By the time I get back home I think , I am just 1 person, 1 little family how can I make that big a difference just by recycling.

This is my county's landfill Which happens to be 550 acres of already used and ready for more trash land.  This is  where my 208 bags of trash end up each year.   Where you can visible see paper, plastic  glass , rotting food, old clothes and half broken furniture form little mountains.  Off in the distant is beautiful rolling grass covered hills that are Beautiful to see but have a ugly truth that hides beneath.  They are nothing more than dirt covered trash piles.

Its hard to find the rights words to described what you see and feel( Lets not even talk about the smell!)  Knowing you have done nothing to help prevent this.   Standing on top of that mountain of trash all I could think about was the movie Wall-E and h0w realistic that movie now seemed to me.   Watching the heavy equipment  push mounds of trash  feeling the earth move under your feet, Its almost scary.

The ground feels like play doh, it gives and moves as the trash shifts beneath you, this is not what I imagined when I threw my trash in the dumpster.

      A big mountain of trash is not the impact I want to make in the world. This is not what I want to leave behind for my children. I know that my recycling will not make a big impact on the trash piles across America but if I start recycling now and then my 3 children will recycle and their children, it starts to add up and make a big impact.

    What impact will you leave on earth? 

All of these photos were taken by me on 7/12/2014 

A Hot Car

I have been talking about this a lot lately as a result of all the recent news coverage over leaving children in the car.  I have tried to reason with those who swear it could never happen to them. "who could forget their child?"  Well I can and I did!

         My daughter Sarah was 6 years old and had stayed home from school sick that day. I was cleaning houses which allowed her to go to work with me since most of the time was spent in my car driving anyhow.   I went about my normal day with Sarah at my side. she helped me clean a few houses when she felt like it but she mostly slept.   It was a hour ride home and she crashed out hard so hard that I forgot she was back there. I was jamming to the radio and thinking about what I was going to make for supper.  I stopped at the little local store where my Mom works just like I did everyday. I pulled in cut the engine off and walk inside. I grabbed the items I needed and started talking to my mom and the other lady who worked there. This had become part of my normal routine. We talked a few minutes maybe even 20 to be honest I dont know how long it was. The entire time my Tahoe was in sight with doors unlocked, key in the ignition , windows rolled up and my daughter inside. I had forgot she was in the back seat asleep. She was never with me when I went to work and I was even thinking about how I needed to hurry so I wouldn't miss the  school bus and it never dawned on me she was sleep in the car.  My daughter woke up and began to panic because she was getting extremely hot. She climbed out of her seat and decided she was going to turn the air on.
                     I stood there laughing, listening to gossip and retelling some gossip of my own when a strange man come walking in. He looked around the store and seeing I was the only costumer he reached out his hand. I instantly recognized  my Keys  and thought I must have dropped them in the parking lot.   Then I suddenly felt like I was punched in the stomach, I remembered. He said " you left your daughter in the car and she was hot and trying to start the car. I rolled the windows down for her, here is your keys"     Oh my god , how could I forget my daughter was in the car! oh my god this man might have just saved my daughters life.

               Before that day,  like so many other parents I would have swore there was no way I could forget my child was in the car.  It happen to me and it happens to other parents every day.  You can think about how you could never forget your child but unless you are using some type of system to ensure this, chances are one day you might find yourself in my shoes or worse.  52% of all vehicle related deaths involving children  are from being forgotten in a vehicle.  In 2013 44 children died from being forgotten in a car.    I think its time instead of pointing fingers and claiming how we are so much better than that , we start thinking of ways to put a end this!

   Some parents are claiming to not leave car seats in the car when a child is not using it.  Most children who are forgotten in cars are under the age of 2 and  many of the parent have claimed that seeing a car seat especially rear facing seats was nothing unusual since they left the seat in the car at all time.

   Some parents are buying small mirrors that hang in the back seat that allow the driver to see the child with the rear view mirror.

 Some parents are using a stuffed animal that rides in the car seat when the child does not. When The child is placed in the seat the stuffed animal goes in the front passenger seat as a reminder  that the baby/child is in the seat

   Some parents are using the no distraction method  since many parents who forgot their child was in the car claimed to have been distracted by either the radio, cell phones, or work related stress. , when the child is with you there is no radio ( number 1 claimed distraction) No  talking on cell phones ( number 2)  .

    I was riding down the road the other day with my mom, when I looked down and seen a Big Orange Light that said Passenger2 Air bag on.

  I thought if my car can tell me when I have a front passenger why cant it tell me when I have a rear passenger?  The sensor in the front seat is designed to detected a certain amount of weight before turning the air bag on.  A sensor similar to this could be installed in all rear seats  when 10+ pounds is detected  a big orange light would show on the instrument panel indicating you have rear passengers. When you turn the ignition off the light would flash and make a couple beeps alerting you that you have back passengers. Maybe even a feature where you can not lock the car doors (with remote) when back passengers are detected unless you open 1 rear door first.  The feature could be disabled with a key switch ( for non-parent owners)  much like some cars allow for passenger air bags.

  We have child safety locks installed to keep kids in our cars why not install something that helps us remember to get them out? 

        Many people will say that's stupid and is not needed but had this feature been installed in my car I wouldn't have forgot about my child sleep in the back seat and how many other children could have been saved ? 

                              

For sale !

                           Will Be Sold to Highest Bidder! !

I have for sale today 1 gentle used family. The Family is a 2000 model with some 1979 parts.  The family is in near mint condition with a few minor scratches and dings, that is to be expected with this model of Family.  This family is a 4 unit family which includes 1 husband 2 sons and 1 daughter.  All will be shipped together and I will not part them out you have to take them all!
                 Let me tell you a little about what you would be getting, 1. 1979 model husband, He is a good worker but does require some of encouragement.  He makes great use of that old recliner nobody else wants to sit in.  He will keep the grass mowed ( call today and I will throw the lawn mower in for free) He makes sure you feel needed by leaving little jobs for you to do.   He requires very little maintenance  and has been properly trained to put the toilet seat down.   He is great for the person who likes dirty socks in the floor and long naps on the couch. As a bonus he will play video games at night and leave you to sleep alone.
     up next we have the second unit a 2000 model son.  He is a little used with a few wear and tear spots on him but nothing a little soap will not buff out.  He is very quiet and well mannered. With him you will never need to waste another container storing left overs, there will be none.  If you are trying to cut back on snacks and soda this is the unit to have. He will consume everything so fast you will not have time to eat anything. You don't have to buy him pants because he will wear shorts with his socks pulled up to keep his legs warm ( I guess that's why he does it) . He is a great looking unit and is fully trained for taking care of himself with small reminders.  Like the husband unit he will make you feel very needed by leaving little jobs for you to do.

 The third unit is a 2004 model son. This unit is so cute you will over look his attitude.  (due to company policy I do have to warn you that sometimes his asshole attitude may effect you or others around you. please take caution with this one ) He is a easy eater since he will only eat chicken ( just not Tyson chicken, or any chicken with a bone in it)  He is very entertaining , He likes to dance like Michael Jackson ( a great crowd pleaser, imagine your next cookout with your very own dancer)  He loves star wars and is willing to teach you anything you don't want to know.  He is partially trained , He  forgets to put the toilet seat down and may or may not do jumping jacks while using the toilet.  He should be easy to finish training with a little effort. 

The last and final unit is a 2007 model daughter.   This unit comes preloaded with tons of  sass and music.  ( I will throw in 1 frozen dvd with this unit)  This is the perfect unit for any person wanting to brush up on their arguing skills.  She does require a little more maintenance than the other units but gives the best kisses at the end of the day.   She has had very little training so you can make her your own.  like the other units she can make you feel very needed by leaving little jobs for you and if you are feeling to much love she will remind you easily that she hates you.  

      All 4 units together for 1 low price!    I can ship or meet locally at the nearest Wal-Mart
please contact me today if you are interested in buying this family.  I wouldn't be selling except I need to money for a beach trip.  please make offer !!!!! 

Potty Training Tips from the Bad Mom

                                               Potty Training Tips                                                 

1. Forget the cute little potty it  will be used for everything but a potty.

2. Pull ups only make it easier to run through the house naked

3. Placing poop in potty by hand counts in the eyes of  a 2 year old

4. Having your daughter clap and cheer through walmart yelling yay mommy pee in potty is very embarrassing

5. Dora panties can be used as a hat, mask or a cover for brothers monster trucks

6.Trying to catch their own pee is normal

7. Little girls with brothers will try to stand up and pee at least once or like Sarah a couple times.

8 nobody cares if the flowers fade when wet on the pull up

9. telling your daughter she just peed on Dora can cause a melt down

10. having your child yell bye bye mommy poopy in a public bath room isn't funny.

11. nobody is comfortable with their child wanting to wipe mommy or daddy's butt.

12. sometimes a potty training child just really needs to see the wall color of every bath room from your house to walmart.

13.pooping in the little potty for the Dora doll house Still counts !

14. If your child isn't getting it at first , don't worry I have yet to hear of a teenager not patty trained - they will get it eventually!