Confessions of a Bad Mom : Dear Daughter

Confessions of a Bad Mom : Dear Daughter

Dear Daughter

Dear daughter,

You think you have the whole world figured out and that being a teenager is going to be the greatest thing ever.

Little do you know that you are about to face some of the hardest times of your life. Yes it has been a short life with not a whole lot to compare it to , but  being a teenager sucks.  What happens to you in the next few years will seem to last forever, These times can shape you or haunt you. I am here to help you along the way , But I know our relationship is about to be tested and I am trying to prepare myself .

From the moment you were born I have treated you like you were my personal Barbie doll. I bought beautiful dresses and every cute shoe I laid eyes on. I spend hours learning to braid and gave you the biggest bow collection around. I have bought ear rings and bracelets necklaces and 10 different scarfs. I loved those little moments with you. You had no clue that I was trying to soak up as much of you as I could . Every morning that you complained about me brushing your hair was another little memory that I could hold on to. see very soon I am going to need all these little moments because our time as best friends is coming to an end.

          I have never allowed you to have a boyfriend . Even at 5 when the neighbors thought it was cute to refer to their grandson as your boyfriend , I corrected them!   
I have never allowed you to dress provocatively  .  I always made sure that you knew that brumada shorts were super cute and a Princess lea costume is way more cool than a whorish monster high one.
I have never allowed or encouraged you to shake your booty instead we two stepped and learned the steps to Michaels Jacksons smooth criminal so we could be back up dancers for your brother.
   I am hoping that all these little things I have done will help you when making decisions later on. Believe me one day all those things will seem a lot more important than they do now.   very soon I will be ruining your life and you will not be able to understand my rules and restrictions until you have a daughter of your own.

You are going to sneak and have your first boyfriend before you are 32 . You are going to borrow your friends clothes and get caught posting a twerking video on instagram. You are going to break my rules and you are going to get into trouble . You are going to hate me for not letting you get your belly pierced at 14.    You are going to try to post photos on facebook ( or whatever social network you are using) that you will swear that everyone else is allowed to post and I will make you delete them, every single time.

see all these years of being your best friend was to give me the strength to stand up to you and not be your best friend when you need a mother. To be the party pooper , the old lady, The sucky ass person, the meanest mother on the earth! I am prepared to be all of those and more ! !! I love you child but the first time I see a photo of you looking even remotely half naked I will burn all your clothes and force you wear nothing but footed sleepers to school and I will break out the old bow collection.  

I would keep writing but I think I have gave my self enough words to eat in the near future!

 

" WELFARE QUEEN "

Unless you have lived under a rock for the past 10 years then you have heard someone complaining about people on welfare.  If you have a facebook you probably see or read something daily about it.
    
I try to ignore the rude and down right uneducated remarks people make and the pictures that they share.   I often wonder how many people feel bullied and belittled by these types of things shared on social media. Can you imagine  how you might feel if you were one of the most hated people in America.   lets face it above all the  Politicians  ,  The KKK , The confederate flag , and even Gay and lesbians who want to get married  People on welfare are not only hated the most but have to endure the most judgmental accusing hate of all.
      

 

No matter their color. No matter their religious belief. No matter their sexual orientation They all hate people on welfare.   Even people on welfare hate people who receive more welfare.

  
  There is two different types of welfare social welfare  and corporate  welfare ( corporate subsidies) . 
     social welfare -
  SNAP - A food and Nutrition program better known as Foodstamps provides food assistance to 23 million households

Housing Assistance  - A program (HUD) that provides rental assistance and public housing

SSI - For disabled or blind people under the age of 65.

Pell Grants -  assistance for 9.2 million (2012) college students from low income homes.

TANF - Cash assistance to low income homes . Most states have a job requirement  to receive.

Free and Reduced school lunches  Provides free or reduced breakfast and lunch to 2.5 million school age children
 
Head Start - A preschool program

Job Training programs

WIC-  provides nutritional services to 8.7 million pregnant women and children under the age of 5.

Child Care Services  - Free or reduced child care costs  for low income homes.     Most states require at least one month employment before receiving assistance
 

LIHEAP - provides assistance with heating costs to low income homes

Lifeline   Better known as the Obama Phone,started off in 1986 to provide assistants with phone services and then  later free or reduced Cell phones  for low income homes.

Medicaid     health and medical services for 40 million families with low incomes and few resources.

So when you hear people talking about the people on Welfare they are talking about 1/3 of Americans who receive some type of assistance .

 

You have to work hard everyday because you have bills to pay and if every single person was kicked off of welfare you would still have to work just as hard to pay your bills.  The only way to not work hard would be for you to manipulate the system so that you can receive assistants yourself.

 

   

You don't have an IPhone because you have bad credit or you are not eligible  for an upgrade with your cellphone provider  yet.  because most phone companies have iPhones for a  $ .99 with 2 year contract or updated contract.   Neither one of those reasons are effected by people who receive welfare.

 

    

 

 



 

 

 

 

 

 Welfare Queen,  Kid popping Peggy  , Lazy Larry,   Foodstamp Tramp,  Jobless Joe  Whatever you call them They are in fact still people!   

 

 

 



Heck I would rather Lazy Larry  get my tax dollar  Then it be sent to  some other  country,  big oil or GM . Corporate welfare is the problem .

  I like how everyone who bitches about welfare  fails to mention how JP Chase Morgan has a contract to manage EBT cards in 21 states and made more than a half a billion dollars between 2012 and 2014 off those contracts.
New York alone paid $0.95 per month per each of its 1.7 million users to JP Chase with your tax dollar and people think that Jobless Joe is the problem!

  Foodstamps is the only time you see your tax dollar come back into your community and each dollar spent on Food stamps generates $1.70 in local economy activity .
Those tax dollars which cost the average tax payer about 10 cents a day that are used for Food stamps pumped 2.43 billion dollars into my states economy in 2012. Many small mom and pop stores wouldn't even be open today if it weren't for their foodstamp using costumers. Many small business would have to shut their doors or lay employees off if it weren't for their products being bought with foodstamps.
In 2012 the average tax payer who made 50 thousand dollars a year paid $36 into Social welfare programs and $6,000  corporate subsidies to big business .  Yet single mom Sally is the problem?
     Tell me any other program where you get to see your tax dollar come back into your area?
We can't even argue about planned parenthood  because  so many people would rather pay to kill a baby than to feed a baby.  I see people post anti abortion stuff all day long then turn right around and say stop popping out kids if you can't support them and I wonder do you want them to have the baby or not???   
   Shit I say give lying Larry and kid popping Peggy  their food stamps cause I would rather see my neighbor eating steaks than I would see another politician take a golf trip on my tax dollar or GM get another bailout while they use their personal jets to pick up the check!
          

 

        So everyone is  mad over the people on welfare who don't pay taxes but drive big new SUVs and have iphones .   When they bought that SUV they paid sales tax on it .  If they are making payments on it they are paying taxes on it. If they live in my state they are paying a yearly property tax on it.     When they bought that cell phone they paid taxes on it when they pay their monthly bills they are paying taxes.   Nobody except politicians  get to live tax free  solely off of your tax dollars

        When you complain about people on welfare you are not talking to the small percent of people who abuse the system you are talking to your neighbor who used Pell Grants to be a nurse. You are talking to your blind friend who receives SSI . You are talking to a family who doesn't know any other way. You are talking to half of your community and making them feel worse than they already do.

   

No this wasn't politically correct and my grammar is even worse but my point is clear stop judging people!!!!    

 Imagine waking up tomorrow and not knowing how you are going to feed your family. Maybe you lost your job or you over spent and now you have no money for groceries Your kids are hungry and the cabinets are bare what do you do? Do you think one single person who hates welfare is going to offer to buy your groceries or help you in any way? No they are only going to point fingers at you and tell you how you don't deserve to be a parent if you cant feed your kids. They are going to tell you how you should have thought about that before having sex. They will call you lazy and tell you what a burden you are on society. It doesn't matter if you have worked hard for 10 years and a broken leg has put you out of work for 3 months . It doesn't matter if you were just fired from the factory that you worked at for 20 years. It doesn't matter that you are swimming in debt of student loans and have yet to find a job. It doesn't matter if you were in a abusive relationship and trying to start over . It doesn't matter that you suffer from a mental dieses or addiction and cant not feed your children any other way.  YOU ARE A WERLFARE BUM IN THE EYES OF YOUR PEERS!